On Overnights
So you’ve taken the plunge and committed to an intimate sleepover followed by a lingering brunch. What should you expect, and what is the etiquette?
Many companions have some notes next to the overnight offering, letting you know how long you can expect to stay and some minimum sleep requirements; you should start there. What are your expectations for such a length of time? Quantify what you wish to get out of your encounter, and make sure you have realistic expectations of yourself and your paramour. Are you the kind of person who likes to stay up very late partying and drinking, ordering in food and playing music? Maybe you prefer a dinner out and a show. Perhaps you can’t sleep in the same bed as another person, but you do want someone to share your coffee with in the morning. Are you someone with a lot of stamina, and you expect a partner to keep up? Are you more interested in the company and physical closeness than the act itself? Before you contact anyone, know what kind of experience you are after and find someone who seems to suit it!
You’ll notice that the average overnight pricing reflects far less than 14 hours at the hourly rate; this is because we’re all sleeping for some of that time. My sleep requirement is at least six hours; you certainly don’t want a grumpy Florence in the morning, so I encourage clients to respect this time without interruption and without being miserly and waking me up at six hours on the dot after we decided to go to bed (if it takes you only seconds to get to sleep while next to an unfamiliar partner, I admire your talent). Each person is different; I love a good cuddle when we’re dozing off! But without exception, all providers will be extremely upset with you if you attempt to initiate sexual activities while they’re asleep or during the time that’s been set aside for sleep. Remember, a sleeping person cannot consent. This might be an acceptable activity with someone you’re in a steady relationship with, but our dynamic is different and it is important to respect that boundary.
On boundaries, remember that we also need some personal time during longer bookings. I like to check my emails and personal messages before bed, and I don’t really want a client hanging over my shoulder while I'm in the bathroom doing my skincare routine, brushing my teeth, and poking contacts out of my eyes. We are normal people with normal bodily functions, and we would prefer a little space to do this regardless of the time on the clock.
Eat in or dine out? Either way, remember that we have to eat too! Account for this when you are budgeting for your romance, because the evening is on your tab entirely. Do you want some snacks in the room? Perhaps a bottle of wine or some whisky? Ask your partner what they might enjoy, and remember that many of us don’t drink at all. If you're not hungry, it doesn’t mean you can decide that you’re both skipping dinner! Recreational substances are something I don’t entertain with clients, but if you do, ensure your chosen escort knows about it, consents to being around it, and doesn’t feel unsafe with you whilst you’re using it.
While you’re budgeting, consider that there may be the cost of a hotel room to account for. Please do not decide that the cheapest hotel is the best option for you; if you have been able to afford an overnight in the first place, then $200 more for the Hilton rather than the three star Ibis is probably worthwhile. The walls won’t be so painfully thin, and you will enjoy sitting in the space during all the time you have before actually sleeping. The deposit requirement for a long booking such as this will be higher than a two hour tryst to cover your provider if you need to cancel. Some providers insist on a shorter booking prior to the overnight to get a feel for how they will feel sleeping beside you, but some won’t need that at all.
It should go without saying, but snooping through our things while we’re in the shower or asleep is absolutely not on. You might be curious about our real names, but I can assure you that you have no need to know them and it will simply ruin the beautiful frozen moment in time that is an escort appointment.
You might like to think of a rough plan of how the evening will unfold; are you meeting at the hotel and then going out, or are you meeting at the restaurant or theatre? How are you getting back to the room? What time do you anticipate getting up in the morning, and will there be enough time to share breakfast or will it be a quick tea and goodbye? A plan is a good way to use your time effectively and to manage your expectations of what the night might look like.
I do hope you all have excellent experiences! Whether you’re booking an overnight date with someone you’ve been seeing for a while, or someone brand new to you, I hope your evenings are magical and your mornings tranquil.
